A great resource about how one couple uses the Gottman resource Aftermath of a Fight in real life. Reach out and schedule a session if you could use some help or resources like the one mentioned here.
Whether you are recently engaged, married for twenty years or single and looking, this video gives research based information about how to intentionally make a marriage or partnership work. It comes down to the small moments and choices you make to be present.
The following article resonates with me. If we make active choices to live a life that we don't want to escape from, then I agree we care promoting long term self care. Try to make financial or spiritual wellness a priority rather than a bubble bath and chocolate cake and see what the outcome is.
It takes time and experience to have insight as a parent. This blog was written by a family therapist who has had 10 Insights into what it takes to be a Remarkable Parent.
You may or may not have heard about the Power and Control wheel, or a tool that I often use in sessions to talk about the dynamics related to power in a relationship.
If your partner exhibits any of the dynamics described in the wheel, you may be in need of help. Consider reaching out to a therapist, or at least to a friend who has resources to help you safely navigate an exit from the relationship.
An impressive New York Times piece on modern marriage and the reality that many people may not need to divorce.
So how do you spend the (sometimes small) amount of time you have to talk to your partner? Do you promote connection or do you talk past each other? The difference may not be as obvious as you would think.
Taking a vacation is not always a viable option for couples. The extra time we spend together may be the first thing that goes in a marriage. What you can do to make your marriage work:
Being in a marriage can be difficult territory, especially if you don't know what your fights mean. The Gottmans have narrowed down the top 6 fights that all married couples have, and the areas of work needed as a result.
Same sex couples' successes and failures were studied alongside straight couples', and the bottom line is that same sex couples tend to operate from a healthier set of principles.
Emotional intelligence appears to be higher in same sex couples, where hostile and controlling emotional tactics were fewer. Humor and positive perspective were more often used to start disagreements, and disagreements were more easily forgotten when done. The research goes on to show the differences in lesbian couples' and gay couples' argument patterns, likely a result of gender socialization.