A great resource about how one couple uses the Gottman resource Aftermath of a Fight in real life. Reach out and schedule a session if you could use some help or resources like the one mentioned here.
Whether you are recently engaged, married for twenty years or single and looking, this video gives research based information about how to intentionally make a marriage or partnership work. It comes down to the small moments and choices you make to be present.
You may or may not have heard about the Power and Control wheel, or a tool that I often use in sessions to talk about the dynamics related to power in a relationship.
If your partner exhibits any of the dynamics described in the wheel, you may be in need of help. Consider reaching out to a therapist, or at least to a friend who has resources to help you safely navigate an exit from the relationship.